add_filter('acf/validate_value/name=your_field_name', 'only_allow_3', 20, 4);
function only_allow_3($valid, $value, $field, $input) {
if (count($value) > 3) {
$valid = 'Only Select 3';
}
return $valid;
}
https://www.advancedcustomfields.com/resources/acf-validate_value/