ok i switched to relationship fields and wanted to do same thing
i did it by filtering the query so for anybody who wants to do the same thing here is the code
<?php
function my_post_object_query( $args, $field, $post )
{
// modify the order
$args[‘post_status’] = array(‘publish’);
return $args;
}
// filter for every field post object
add_filter(‘acf/fields/post_object/query’, ‘my_post_object_query’, 10, 3);
// filter for every field relationship
add_filter(‘acf/fields/relationship/query’, ‘my_post_object_query’, 10, 3);