I have a feeling that I am not completely understanding how the relationships between your post types and posts work.
But I think I’ve worked out what you want to do
function my_post_object_query($args, $field, $post_id) {
$parent = wp_get_post_parent_id($post_id);
$meta_query = array(
array(
'key' => 'pro_to_con',
'value' => $parent,
'compare' => 'LIKE'
)
);
$args['meta_query'] = $meta_query;
return $args;
}